Happy New Year, Welcome to 2008.
The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) recommends that all members of a family that is struggling with addiction receive treatment.
Have you ever thought that if you were only a better husband, wife, or parent the addiction of your loved one might not have happened? Do you feel shame and isolate because of your family member's addiction? Have you felt frustrated, hopeless, angry, stressed, depressed? This is the disease of addiction playing havoc with family members. You need help to get through this. One of the goals of getting help is to learn that the addiction is not your fault, no matter how hard the addict works to convince you it is.
If you are dealing with addiction in your family YOU need help. YOU need support and YOU need to make a point in 2008 to get it. Don't get stuck thinking it is your job to save your family member, their life is NOT in your hands. The three tasks that are a must for for family members are to get education about addiction, To participate in an ongoing support group and to give up trying to control or believing you are responsible for the outcome for someone else.
Remember the three C's
You didn't CAUSE it, You can't CONTROL it and You can't CURE it.