Thursday, March 11, 2010
The first rule for boundaries is that the family members must not set any boundary that they don't fully agree on. Do not act unilaterally. The second rule is that no boundary should be communicated to the addicted family member until it has been discussed with with the family and all are willing to implement it. Work with each other to find a boundary you can agree on. You may have to start small. The third rule for boundaries is they must be designed to increase the well being of the family not to manipulate or punish the addicted family member. It is very important, if not absolutely necessary for the family members, such as the parents of an addict, to get support from some group in which they can discuss their situation and talk over their options.