Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Helping Yourself

At some point many people come to the realization that they have to start taking care of themselves or they will be worse off that the addict they have been over focusing on. Then comes the big question. What do I do?? People who have disappeared into the care taker role often forget or never learned how to take care of themselves. It feels selfish, uncomfortable, or at least, very awkward. Two of the basics of taking care of yourself are to get some exercise and to socialize with someone. Start simple with some small thing that is different that your normal pattern. Watch a sunset or a sunrise once this week. Go to a park and sit under a tree or take a walk, alone or with a friend, once this week. Find something simple to do that is different than your normal pattern. Going to meetings such as al-anon, nar-anon or families anonymous are very important aspect of helping yourself but what is also important, in addition to the meetings, is learning to have some fun.